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The other day I found myself standing next to the fridge, cutting a slice of cake. I did NOT remember how I got myself to that situation, my memory went blank! But there I was, with a knife in my right hand, devotionally cutting a piece of my favourite cashew caramel...

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ONE DAY I DECIDED TO GO CELIBATE

ONE DAY I DECIDED TO GO CELIBATE

One day I decided to go celibate. For a month. You may be laughing… But the story was not so funny as I was self-pleasuring myself to sleep most nights during the years when I suffered from insomnia – a quick-fix clit0ral 0rgasm would help me fall asleep. During that...

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MY BODY, MY TEMPLE

MY BODY, MY TEMPLE

I was carrying layers of unexpressed anger for all the moments I felt objectified by men. In the past, having those unauthorised hungry eyes on me would leave me feeling powerless for I felt unsafe to be and take up space. Those gazes, suggestive comments and...

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  • From mental spirituality to embodied sǝxuality You know when, at the beginning of the spiritual journey, you suddenly discover the web of lies you were living in? About relationships, self-worth, sǝx, money, purpose etc? Realising you're not a victim of your circumstances feels like waking up from a bad dream. Once the weight of self-imposed limitations lifts off, the infinity of possibilities is almost overwhelming: "I don't need to work hard to be abundant" "Men are trustworthy" "I can say no & still be loved" etc And then… When you feel on top of the world, you really want everyone to know "the Truth" & "help them wake up" 🤭 This is the first stage of awakening, when we need to tell everyone about it because...we're not yet embodied. Just having an insight has little value in terms of true long-lasting change. You can go on a week-long retreat & come back with lots of mental insights. Yet the post-retreat high disappears in a week or two if it's not anchored in the body. True change always includes the BODY. Our bodies are not an obstacle to awakening, they're a vehicle. Once we embrace this, we can move to the 2nd stage of awakening—from mental to embodied spirituality. Or, in my world, to embodied sǝxuality. Here, we no longer need to preach to others about what they should eat, the courses they should take, or the relationship patterns they should rewire. The way we live our Truth INSPIRES change in others, when / if they're ready. 🌀Here's a real life example. As a woman, you can try to make your partner do a Tantra course because "you know it'll be good for him". That will never work. If he does what you demand him, you'll lose respect for his Masculine leadership & integrity. Total polarity killer. Or else you can become that which you desire. And, with your embodied love, you can inspire & invite him. He may join or not, but you'll remain truthful to yourself, sister. Bridging your sǝx, heart & Spirit is what counts. Feelin' me, sister? The waitlist for my group program, Erotically Embodied, is now open. Join if you're called to reignite desire, awaken your feminine sǝxuality & create deep, embodied love. 💥Link in my bio
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    From mental spirituality to embodied sǝxuality You know when, at the beginning of the spiritual journey, you suddenly discover the web of lies you were living in? About relationships, self-worth, sǝx, money, purpose etc? Realising you're not a victim of your circumstances feels like waking up from a bad dream. Once the weight of self-imposed limitations lifts off, the infinity of possibilities is almost overwhelming: "I don't need to work hard to be abundant" "Men are trustworthy" "I can say no & still be loved" etc And then… When you feel on top of the world, you really want everyone to know "the Truth" & "help them wake up" 🤭 This is the first stage of awakening, when we need to tell everyone about it because...we're not yet embodied. Just having an insight has little value in terms of true long-lasting change. You can go on a week-long retreat & come back with lots of mental insights. Yet the post-retreat high disappears in a week or two if it's not anchored in the body. True change always includes the BODY. Our bodies are not an obstacle to awakening, they're a vehicle. Once we embrace this, we can move to the 2nd stage of awakening—from mental to embodied spirituality. Or, in my world, to embodied sǝxuality. Here, we no longer need to preach to others about what they should eat, the courses they should take, or the relationship patterns they should rewire. The way we live our Truth INSPIRES change in others, when / if they're ready. 🌀Here's a real life example. As a woman, you can try to make your partner do a Tantra course because "you know it'll be good for him". That will never work. If he does what you demand him, you'll lose respect for his Masculine leadership & integrity. Total polarity killer. Or else you can become that which you desire. And, with your embodied love, you can inspire & invite him. He may join or not, but you'll remain truthful to yourself, sister. Bridging your sǝx, heart & Spirit is what counts. Feelin' me, sister? The waitlist for my group program, Erotically Embodied, is now open. Join if you're called to reignite desire, awaken your feminine sǝxuality & create deep, embodied love. 💥Link in my bio
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  • 𝟯 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽, 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 Everyone speaks about romantic relationships as a spiritual path, but deep friendships are as important. I used to be deprived of both! I would complain that "there's no conscious men out there". I would also simultaneously find myself without a community I could lean onto. Everyone just seemed to be busy doing their own thing. Yes, instead of meeting myself... I was busy collecting evidence that "no one can meet me". The truth is, "we can only meet each other as deeply as we have met ourselves". When we're truly intimate with ourselves, we're capable of calling in not only a conscious relationship, but also a whole community 💕 1️⃣ Conscious friendships are about creating shared soul realities Friendships are not just watching movies or catching up once in a while. It's about... Asking to be held when you're falling apart. Daring to ask to receive without thinking that you have to give first. Knowing your friend's love languages & expressing love in their preferred way...even if it's not natural to you. Expressing if they hurt you & asking for what you need. Checking in with them after a big day. 2️⃣ Cultivating deep friendships is as important as building a conscious romantic relationship Having a consistent support network is what makes us thrive & makes it possible to have all of our needs met. Placing all of your connection-related needs (including touch!) onto one person, usually your romantic partner, is a big mistake 🤦‍♀️ Why? In short, relying only on one person to have our needs met creates resentment, co-dependence & is a very proven sexual polarity killer. 3️⃣ Allowing yourself to be seen by your soul fam is a legit healing modality Allowing yourself to be truly seen by more than one person is such a precious source of self-inquiry & shadow work. It's like being a hall of mirrors that reflects the hidden facets of your being. Allowing ourselves TO BE SEEN in our vulnerable humanesses is medicine for the soul. / / / Share & tag a friend that's your soul family! Drop a 💙 if you're also feeling this x
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    𝟯 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽, 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 Everyone speaks about romantic relationships as a spiritual path, but deep friendships are as important. I used to be deprived of both! I would complain that "there's no conscious men out there". I would also simultaneously find myself without a community I could lean onto. Everyone just seemed to be busy doing their own thing. Yes, instead of meeting myself... I was busy collecting evidence that "no one can meet me". The truth is, "we can only meet each other as deeply as we have met ourselves". When we're truly intimate with ourselves, we're capable of calling in not only a conscious relationship, but also a whole community 💕 1️⃣ Conscious friendships are about creating shared soul realities Friendships are not just watching movies or catching up once in a while. It's about... Asking to be held when you're falling apart. Daring to ask to receive without thinking that you have to give first. Knowing your friend's love languages & expressing love in their preferred way...even if it's not natural to you. Expressing if they hurt you & asking for what you need. Checking in with them after a big day. 2️⃣ Cultivating deep friendships is as important as building a conscious romantic relationship Having a consistent support network is what makes us thrive & makes it possible to have all of our needs met. Placing all of your connection-related needs (including touch!) onto one person, usually your romantic partner, is a big mistake 🤦‍♀️ Why? In short, relying only on one person to have our needs met creates resentment, co-dependence & is a very proven sexual polarity killer. 3️⃣ Allowing yourself to be seen by your soul fam is a legit healing modality Allowing yourself to be truly seen by more than one person is such a precious source of self-inquiry & shadow work. It's like being a hall of mirrors that reflects the hidden facets of your being. Allowing ourselves TO BE SEEN in our vulnerable humanesses is medicine for the soul. / / / Share & tag a friend that's your soul family! Drop a 💙 if you're also feeling this x
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  • 7:03am. Mexico City. I can see the sunlight on the building in front of my window, but not the sky. Just lots of city concrete. I had not woken up in a flat for more than 1,5h years since I was last in Europe! My body felt so...not home. I was yearning for Nature (and Bali). Then I remembered that Soul Community is also Nature. My body relaxed. My dear friends @cimek & @arthur_mor were sleeping in the adjacent room. Nearly 2 years ago, Cim & Arthur were the first people who welcomed me back into 'normal life' after I left the frozen Arctic. They held me as I was crying when—after a few months of the Polar Night— I was shocked to see the morning light, trees & people strolling in parks. Now this same power couple embraced me once again after 2 full days of travel, spanning 12 time zones between Bali & Mexico. ◼ I don't travel anymore to see new places or cities. ◼ I travel to create & deepen relationships. ◼ Relationships are a key element of my spiritual path. In the term 'relationships', I also include deep, conscious friendships. Of course, most people value connection & friendships. Yet it requires a level of intentionality & commitment to prioritize building deep friendships that are more than watching movies together or catching up about the week that has already passed. ◼ Your inner circle reflects your deep friendships◼ I am extremely picky with whom I spend my time, including the clients I work with. I have a few people in my closest inner circle with whom we're in continuous connection & we know what's going on in our daily lives. Being held by soul-aligned relationships helps me hold all the women in my coaching containers. There's no way I could do this work without my precious support network! So, fellow love warrior, close your eyes & tune in. 🔹Who are your outer circle people with whom you just enjoy a sweet catch up every other week or month? And… 🔹Who are your inner circle people with whom you intentionally create heart-to-heart shared realities? 🔹I'm curious, how many people do you have in your inner circle? Share in the comments 💜 There's no wrong answer, whether it's one or ten! 📷 @iamjodielouise
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    7:03am. Mexico City. I can see the sunlight on the building in front of my window, but not the sky. Just lots of city concrete. I had not woken up in a flat for more than 1,5h years since I was last in Europe! My body felt so...not home. I was yearning for Nature (and Bali). Then I remembered that Soul Community is also Nature. My body relaxed. My dear friends @cimek & @arthur_mor were sleeping in the adjacent room. Nearly 2 years ago, Cim & Arthur were the first people who welcomed me back into 'normal life' after I left the frozen Arctic. They held me as I was crying when—after a few months of the Polar Night— I was shocked to see the morning light, trees & people strolling in parks. Now this same power couple embraced me once again after 2 full days of travel, spanning 12 time zones between Bali & Mexico. ◼ I don't travel anymore to see new places or cities. ◼ I travel to create & deepen relationships. ◼ Relationships are a key element of my spiritual path. In the term 'relationships', I also include deep, conscious friendships. Of course, most people value connection & friendships. Yet it requires a level of intentionality & commitment to prioritize building deep friendships that are more than watching movies together or catching up about the week that has already passed. ◼ Your inner circle reflects your deep friendships◼ I am extremely picky with whom I spend my time, including the clients I work with. I have a few people in my closest inner circle with whom we're in continuous connection & we know what's going on in our daily lives. Being held by soul-aligned relationships helps me hold all the women in my coaching containers. There's no way I could do this work without my precious support network! So, fellow love warrior, close your eyes & tune in. 🔹Who are your outer circle people with whom you just enjoy a sweet catch up every other week or month? And… 🔹Who are your inner circle people with whom you intentionally create heart-to-heart shared realities? 🔹I'm curious, how many people do you have in your inner circle? Share in the comments 💜 There's no wrong answer, whether it's one or ten! 📷 @iamjodielouise
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  • So much has been happening & changing behind the scenes in my life.⠀ ⠀ My heart has been going through wildfires & eventually cracking open in love & creativity.⠀ ⠀ Last month, me & my partner transitioned into a loving friendship. This process had been happening for sometime &, when the actual separation happened, my heart had already processed most of the grief. We parted ways in the most loving, respectful & appreciative way. I'm so grateful for all the ways we showed up for each other until our dharma together was complete.⠀ ⠀ In the meantime, my Tantra house constellation has been changing too.⠀ ⠀ For the last 9+ months, I've been living with some of the highest caliber visionary, embodied beings I have the honour to know & love. ⠀ Together, we increased each other's relationship standards beyond measure 🙂 ⠀ @_chantelleraven has just left for Australia. And, even if this is the best co-living situation I've ever had, my soul has summoned me to go to Costa Rica for a couple of months. There, I'll reunite with my other soul family, @cimek & @arthur_mor ⠀ In the midst of these changes & heart expansions, I've channeled my life force energy into a new offering (a weekend intensive happening next week) whilst still holding the sacred containers of my group program, Erotically Embodied, & my 1:1 clients. ⠀ I don't like using the word "busy". Let’s say, I've been joyfully engaged with life in its fullness. ⠀ As I've been redesigning my life, I've been feeling more creatively & sexually alive than ever before. ⠀ ⠀ When we begin following our internal, intuitive compass—even if it makes little sense to the rational mind—the navigation of life becomes effortless. It's still scary at times, yet it's simultaneously ecstatic. ⠀ ⠀ Each time in life when I chose to free fall, jump into the unknown, it was when life was most generous with me in opportunities, serendipities & creative flowstates. Not that I was chasing them, I just couldn't do otherwise. ⠀ ⠀ Remember, once you take the first step, the universe will take the second one. But you gotta show her that you're ready for your best life possible. ⠀ ⠀ "Take the leap and the net will appear".⠀ Will you dare?
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    So much has been happening & changing behind the scenes in my life.⠀ ⠀ My heart has been going through wildfires & eventually cracking open in love & creativity.⠀ ⠀ Last month, me & my partner transitioned into a loving friendship. This process had been happening for sometime &, when the actual separation happened, my heart had already processed most of the grief. We parted ways in the most loving, respectful & appreciative way. I'm so grateful for all the ways we showed up for each other until our dharma together was complete.⠀ ⠀ In the meantime, my Tantra house constellation has been changing too.⠀ ⠀ For the last 9+ months, I've been living with some of the highest caliber visionary, embodied beings I have the honour to know & love. ⠀ Together, we increased each other's relationship standards beyond measure 🙂 ⠀ @_chantelleraven has just left for Australia. And, even if this is the best co-living situation I've ever had, my soul has summoned me to go to Costa Rica for a couple of months. There, I'll reunite with my other soul family, @cimek & @arthur_mor ⠀ In the midst of these changes & heart expansions, I've channeled my life force energy into a new offering (a weekend intensive happening next week) whilst still holding the sacred containers of my group program, Erotically Embodied, & my 1:1 clients. ⠀ I don't like using the word "busy". Let’s say, I've been joyfully engaged with life in its fullness. ⠀ As I've been redesigning my life, I've been feeling more creatively & sexually alive than ever before. ⠀ ⠀ When we begin following our internal, intuitive compass—even if it makes little sense to the rational mind—the navigation of life becomes effortless. It's still scary at times, yet it's simultaneously ecstatic. ⠀ ⠀ Each time in life when I chose to free fall, jump into the unknown, it was when life was most generous with me in opportunities, serendipities & creative flowstates. Not that I was chasing them, I just couldn't do otherwise. ⠀ ⠀ Remember, once you take the first step, the universe will take the second one. But you gotta show her that you're ready for your best life possible. ⠀ ⠀ "Take the leap and the net will appear".⠀ Will you dare?
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  • After today's self-pleasure ritual, I started laughing uncontrollably. It wasn't that nervous laugh that is the result of the sǝxual energy flushing out any tension from our bodies. It was a childlike, joyous, everything-is-a-cosmic-joke style of laughing. I laughed because... I thought of all the times I had forgotten that...I am love. All the times I felt that I have to modify my behaviour to be loved. All the times I thought I needed to do something to get love from somewhere outside of me. All the times I settled for crumbles of love thinking this is "as good as it gets". When I zoomed out and stayed absolutely present with my body, all those stories sounded absolutely hilarious! All the stories about love, sex & relationships are as real as we make them to be. If you choose to believe that men always abandon you, you'll get exactly that. If you choose to believe that women constrain your freedom, you'll get exactly that. This is why I love working with sexual energy so much. ✺ It flushes out everything that is not love. ✺ It helps us transcend any stories we find ourselves caught up in. ✺ It helps us access profound meditative states where we dissolve back into Love and God. The laughter experienced today was divine. It was reclaiming my erotic innocence. Surrendering open. Bridging my body, sǝxuality, heart, and Spirit. Dear fellow woman, ✺ What blocks you from experiencing deep love? ✺ How present and kind are you with your own body? ✺ How free do you feel to express your whole spectrum of emotions during love-making? If you want to explore these and many other topics, join my free FB group < The Sexually Awakening Woman > where I'll be doing regulat FB lives. The next Live will happen this upcoming Thursday, 10th June. FB group link > in my bio. Can't wait to see you there! Aurika xoxo
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    After today's self-pleasure ritual, I started laughing uncontrollably. It wasn't that nervous laugh that is the result of the sǝxual energy flushing out any tension from our bodies. It was a childlike, joyous, everything-is-a-cosmic-joke style of laughing. I laughed because... I thought of all the times I had forgotten that...I am love. All the times I felt that I have to modify my behaviour to be loved. All the times I thought I needed to do something to get love from somewhere outside of me. All the times I settled for crumbles of love thinking this is "as good as it gets". When I zoomed out and stayed absolutely present with my body, all those stories sounded absolutely hilarious! All the stories about love, sex & relationships are as real as we make them to be. If you choose to believe that men always abandon you, you'll get exactly that. If you choose to believe that women constrain your freedom, you'll get exactly that. This is why I love working with sexual energy so much. ✺ It flushes out everything that is not love. ✺ It helps us transcend any stories we find ourselves caught up in. ✺ It helps us access profound meditative states where we dissolve back into Love and God. The laughter experienced today was divine. It was reclaiming my erotic innocence. Surrendering open. Bridging my body, sǝxuality, heart, and Spirit. Dear fellow woman, ✺ What blocks you from experiencing deep love? ✺ How present and kind are you with your own body? ✺ How free do you feel to express your whole spectrum of emotions during love-making? If you want to explore these and many other topics, join my free FB group < The Sexually Awakening Woman > where I'll be doing regulat FB lives. The next Live will happen this upcoming Thursday, 10th June. FB group link > in my bio. Can't wait to see you there! Aurika xoxo
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  • It's not about the kind of guy you attract, it's about who you get to become in the process (part 3 out of 3). I had insomnia for 1,5 years. You won't believe what helped me heal that. It wasn't therapy, nor was it sleeping pills. It was meeting the root of my insomnia which was a lot of unprocessed heartbreak, covering up a divinely deep & painful Longing for love. When I learnt to own & vibrate that Longing through my body (instead of projecting my desire for love left and right), I accessed a completely new realm of...intimacy & depth in my life. I became less needy or dependent on the outer Masculine to hold me & make me feel safe. → only from such a place can we create healthy relationships. Your desire for love doesn’t make you too much. When owned fully & expressed artfully, it’s a blessing. Instead of thinking "there's no conscious men out there" & feeling lack of love, you can choose to open up as love right now. ☯ How to keep on opening as love even you feel that...you just can't..? ☯ Think, what would you like your beloved to do? Probably to hold you, say you're safe, you're loved no matter what & that it's fair enough to feel whatever you're feeling. You can lie down & breathe, dance, do emotional release, go to nature, write, hug yourself. With no agenda to fix or change your feelings. Holding the totality of your heart is not something you do once. It’s a way of living whether you’re in a relationship or not. Eventually, as your inner Masculine learns to truly hold your Feminine, you'll begin attracting a very different kind of outer Masculine (friends or a partner). You do this not because you're badly seeking to meet someone; but because fortifying your Inner Union is you reclaiming your wholeness. It's a homecoming. It's allowing yourself to be held by God & opening up as love simply because this is who you are. And trusting that the rest will take of itself. Drop a ❤️ if you resonate. SHARE if you think someone else needs to hear this. Aurika xoxo
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    It's not about the kind of guy you attract, it's about who you get to become in the process (part 3 out of 3). I had insomnia for 1,5 years. You won't believe what helped me heal that. It wasn't therapy, nor was it sleeping pills. It was meeting the root of my insomnia which was a lot of unprocessed heartbreak, covering up a divinely deep & painful Longing for love. When I learnt to own & vibrate that Longing through my body (instead of projecting my desire for love left and right), I accessed a completely new realm of...intimacy & depth in my life. I became less needy or dependent on the outer Masculine to hold me & make me feel safe. → only from such a place can we create healthy relationships. Your desire for love doesn’t make you too much. When owned fully & expressed artfully, it’s a blessing. Instead of thinking "there's no conscious men out there" & feeling lack of love, you can choose to open up as love right now. ☯ How to keep on opening as love even you feel that...you just can't..? ☯ Think, what would you like your beloved to do? Probably to hold you, say you're safe, you're loved no matter what & that it's fair enough to feel whatever you're feeling. You can lie down & breathe, dance, do emotional release, go to nature, write, hug yourself. With no agenda to fix or change your feelings. Holding the totality of your heart is not something you do once. It’s a way of living whether you’re in a relationship or not. Eventually, as your inner Masculine learns to truly hold your Feminine, you'll begin attracting a very different kind of outer Masculine (friends or a partner). You do this not because you're badly seeking to meet someone; but because fortifying your Inner Union is you reclaiming your wholeness. It's a homecoming. It's allowing yourself to be held by God & opening up as love simply because this is who you are. And trusting that the rest will take of itself. Drop a ❤️ if you resonate. SHARE if you think someone else needs to hear this. Aurika xoxo
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