Blog - Aurika Valan

When you enter a room full of strangers—do you fear you won't belong there or do you feel so confident in your body that everyone can't help but notice your magnetic appearance? The latter is your s.exual confidence. It's the opposite of lethargy, stuckness, low-self...

NEEDS

The other day I found myself standing next to the fridge, cutting a slice of cake. I did NOT remember how I got myself to that situation, my memory went blank! But there I was, with a knife in my right hand, devotionally cutting a piece of my favourite cashew caramel...

WORKING WITH SEXUALITY WASN’T ON MY “WHEN I GROW UP I WANNA BE” LIST…

How did I get here? ⁠⁠Well, I grew up destined to have the most normal life one could imagine: I grew up in Lithuania and then emigrated to Northern Ireland with my parents at the age of 16. I was an A student and graduated with a MA in Politics and French from a top...

ONE DAY I DECIDED TO GO CELIBATE

One day I decided to go celibate. For a month. You may be laughing… But the story was not so funny as I was self-pleasuring myself to sleep most nights during the years when I suffered from insomnia – a quick-fix clit0ral 0rgasm would help me fall asleep. During that...

MY BODY, MY TEMPLE

I was carrying layers of unexpressed anger for all the moments I felt objectified by men. In the past, having those unauthorised hungry eyes on me would leave me feeling powerless for I felt unsafe to be and take up space. Those gazes, suggestive comments and...